Where The Girls Are


Where The Girls Are


I was a Chicago newbie in August of ’08. I lived with a straight girl from the “suburbs” (one of those funny idiosyncrasies about Chicagoans is that they don’t tell you which suburb they’re from except that they’re from the “suburbs”) and a gay man from Orlando, Florida. You would think that the gay roommate would know where to point me to meet other lesbians, right? Wrong. If The Closet is a lesbian bar, it failed by having way too many male customers.


After that attempt, my other roommate (the straight girl) suggested that I join a dating site to meet friends. I realize, now, that this is a pet peeve of many people on dating sites. I’ve had way too many lesbians ask me, “Why would you look for friends on a dating site?” Well, I don’t know! So before you go and make the same mistakes that I did, here are four suggestions for meeting other lesbians and friends if you’re new in town (or even if you’re not the new girl):

1. T’s Bar and Restaurant

If Sidetrack Chicago is the gay hub of Chicago, enter T’s Bar and Restaurant for Chicago lesbians. True, there’s no real dance floor. Nor is it a nightclub like Sidetrack. Located in Andersonville, also less popularly known as Girls Town, here’s what T’s Bar and Restaurant does feature: a full menu, a pool table, karaoke nights, and awesome alcoholic beverages. Last but not least, though it is the most important thing — other lesbians or women who like women. The food is decent at best, and it’s better than most bar food. I mean, you can order a jerk-seasoned duck! Yum!

5025 N Clark St
Chicago, IL 60640-2823
(773) 784-6000


2. Sapphic Adventures Meetup Group

Perhaps the best way to meet a woman is to join a lesbian meetup group on Sapphic Adventures is one such group. Organized by Kelly Zeng, members of Sapphic Adventures plan events that range from Sunday brunches to ethnic dinners, concerts and snowshoeing in Lake Geneva, WI.




3. Join The Impact – Chicago (JTIC)

Are you an activist? Do you want to see things change around here? Want to make a difference? Yes, yes, and yes? A fellow JTIC activist once said, “An activist’s job is to demand, not compromise. Never settle.” This was the first activist group I came upon in Chicago when I joined their “No on Proposition 8” rally, back towards the end of 2008. There were over a hundred of us, and we marched from the Daley Plaza downtown to the John Hancock tower. We took over the streets! People honked and joined in our cheers. It was exciting to be in their midst.


4. Center on Halsted

Last but not least, one of the most important places you can learn about is the Center on Halsted. It’s our local LGBTQIA resource center. The nice thing about it is that it’s right next to Whole Foods Market, and you can eat in the Center’s lobby while you surf the Internet using their free WiFi. Upstairs, they have a Cyber Center where you can take classes on Microsoft Word, Excel, etc. Are you an artist? If so, you’ll be happy to know that you can rent the space upstairs for an art gallery exhibit. They have all sorts of programming for the bisexual community, LGBT families, recreational programs (basketball, volleyball, yoga, Pilates, self-defense, and ballroom dancing!), programs for the transgendered/transsexual community, and for women. They also provide free HIV testing and services, legal and referral services, mental health services, etc.

3656 North Halsted Street
Chicago, IL 60613-5974
(773) 472-6469

And of course, check out the list of events in our bi-monthly newsletter that we send out on the 1st and 15th of every month. Don’t forget to say hi if you happen to see me.

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About JT

JT is originally from San Francisco, CA. She graduated from UC Santa Cruz with a degree in psychology, focusing primarily on gender and sexuality research. Seeking a change in 2008, she moved to Chicago, and what a change it has been! She can been seen walking and yelping about various Chicago neighborhoods. JT identifies as queer and bisexual, and she is currently dating a straight man. She has an unapologetic love for civil rights, whether it’d be for racial, gender, sexual, or political socioeconomic equality. Occasionally, she volunteers with Howard Brown Health Center to promote safer sex in Boystown.


7 Responses to “Where The Girls Are”

  1. Great article!

    Posted by T (hehe) | May 18, 2011, 3:22 am
  2. where are the straight women for us straight guys?

    Posted by anonymous | June 30, 2011, 11:40 am
  3. @Anonymous – Ha! I’m going to write an article just for you. Wait for it in a couple of days. πŸ˜‰

    Posted by JT | June 30, 2011, 1:04 pm
  4. Hello I’m a lesbian and I’m looking to meet new women I need help ??

    Posted by CC | December 26, 2012, 8:40 pm
  5. Hello new here!

    Posted by Jeannie | February 5, 2013, 9:33 pm
  6. That is because we are so embarrassed to live in the suburbs that we can’t bring ourselves to say the name of our embarrassing suburb. πŸ˜€

    Posted by AJP | July 3, 2013, 5:16 am
  7. Gf convinced me to move to her “suburban town of Wheaton” then suddenly she’s having borderline personality come out and said I’m falling for u. But days later left by the time I came home to pack more for “our trip” to her town. I even just got section 8 housing and about to find a place in Chicago suburbs and bam she’s gone :'( and says you are going to hell for dressing like a man. I don’t wanna ruin my life I need to move on” she said.. and she goes to Sunday church all of that typical suburban Catholic brain washed girl whom did not need to get with me for a year btw not a wk not a month a year and also she’s done this in the past and would act shocked at her own ignorance .. and say sorry and come back …this time it’s been two weeks πŸ™ I’m sortuy point is. I’m San Diego Native, been here all my life minus growing up in For worth Texas for 9 years of my life. Anyways now I’m stuck for minimum 12 months I have to move to Chicago and only thing I’m sad about is, I’m gonna miss my bff/ companion / my gf that is having an episode ! Of course during this time, I would love to get to know true genuine souls out there … :'( my parents had jus died when we met I didn’t want more than friendship but she persuaded and I had no complaints untill now that I’m ditched here in the cold… I don’t want to be felt bad for..I just want to know are there lesbians that are friendly and idk guess I am asking for a magical friendship promise on my arrival there lol sorry…. Sigh…

    Posted by Tima | November 21, 2017, 9:06 pm

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