Relationships
A Rigged Outcome—Why Bisexual Women Struggle In Lesbian Relationships
Within every lesbian community there exists a tale as old as time, a proverb as common as it is contentious: Bi women cheat, betray, and ultimately leave—never for another woman, but for a man. Like those who flee the tumults of city life for quieter and less complicated pastures, bisexual women may seem destined, in […]
Another Lesbian Myth
Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, no matter how hard we work, no matter how righteous our intentions - we will surely disappoint others. There will always be the blamers and the seekers and the players - and sometimes - when our hearts are open and our compassion overflowing - sometimes - someone will […]
Against All Odds - Living a Purposeful Life
“No pain that we suffer, no trial that we experience is wasted. It ministers to our education, to the development of such qualities as patience, faith, fortitude and humility. All that we suffer and all that we endure, especially when we endure it patiently, builds up our characters, purifies our hearts, and expands our souls…” […]
The Farther I Go – the Closer We Get
I can’t remember why I thought I needed some time to myself. It was not that I wanted time without her – that’s different – just time to myself. It would be good to get away – get lost inside my own head for the 6 hours it took to drive from here to there. […]
Traditional Kind of Love
Guz Viewz – The perspective from our Senior Editor and word wrangler, Kathy Guzman. Just three days ago – in a once upon a time and oh so long ago place – I would have celebrated my 28th wedding anniversary with a man I had married when I was barely in my 20’s. We were […]
Differing Sex Drives: A Challenge for Relationships of all Stripes
A difference in sexual desire in a relationship can cause strain and stress for all partners. Sexual desire sits somewhere on a continuum for each of us, and ranges from very high desire to no desire whatsoever. While there is no “correct” or “healthy” sex drive, many couples experience pain and frustration when there is […]
Another Season
Guz Views – The perspective from our Senior Editor and word wrangler, Kathy Guzman. The summer days are but a sweet memory now – the Harleys are trickle charging and the leaves are letting go of their branches as they dance effortlessly to the cold ground below. Thick boy sweaters, Netflix on autopilot, Buffalo Trace […]
Notes on Stacie Passon’s “Concussion”
On September 6, Stacie Passon’s Concussion opened NYC’s NewFest. This film is fantastic; like Anna Albelo’s Who’s Afraid of Vagina Wolf? (which screened September 9 at the festival), it is what lesbian cinema should be in terms of artistry and craft. Below are some thoughts on the film—I’d like to dedicate them to That White Guy who asked about […]
Common Reasons Couples Fight: The Saga of Right and Wrong
One of the most common reasons couples fight is because people in relationships often spend a lot of time and energy trying to explain why they are right. After a disagreement, the “who-was-right-and-who-was-wrong” aftermath can persist for much longer than the argument itself, and can easily become an argument about the argument. In this way, […]
It’s on Facebook …. Guess It Must Be Love
Guz Views – The perspective from our Senior Editor and word wrangler, Kathy Guzman. There was a time – for a very long time – when I swore I would never announce to the Facebook world that I was in a relationship. Felt too much like junior high for a rock star grown up biker […]