Obama Bravery and Me

It was a moment that we all took pause and thought to ourselves – Holy Shit – the president of the United States just publicly announced he was in favor of gay marriage. The flood of emotions and congratulatory high fives that dominoed themselves across this country were published and broadcast for the rest of the world to see. Take notice. And someone actually said – “President Obama is so brave for saying those words out loud.” Really?? Really??

Brave?? For saying a simple, righteous, long overdue bit of verbiage???

The definition of the word brave is “possessing or exhibiting courage or courageous endurance.” Since when did it become brave to say the right thing? Since when did it become brave to believe that each and every single citizen of this country deserves to be treated equally under the law? Since when did it become brave to bestow kindness and give acceptance to each and every person without exception?? How pathetic are we as a nation to find ourselves crawling into the light of freedom, justice and equality for each and every human being this late in the game?? What sort of mentality lives and breathes in these shallow, unfounded debates regarding human rights? What does it say about us as a civilization when we allow certain human beings to label other human beings as being less human and less equal??

How can I make this stupid mess just go away? How can I be patient in a country that seems so petty and cannot simplify the process and just do the right thing. The right thing my friends. Do we not all pay our taxes equally? Do we not all abide by the same laws of the land equally? So – what is the problem? Why should my rights be questioned and debated and politically molested? Just because someone doesn’t like my groovy surfer girl hat does not mean it is not a cool hat. Just because my kids don’t eat their broccoli doesn’t mean that broccoli is not a good thing. Just because I am a girl who happens to like girls doesn’t mean I don’t get to play in the game like everyone else. Who made all these fucking lame ass, theoretically dysfunctional rules?? And why are we still less than all we are entitled to be under the constitution of the United States of America??

This is still the home of the brave and the land of the free – where we are all supposed to be playing by the same set of rules – right?? If that is true, and the game is fair and the playing field level and we all as citizens reap the same rewards for lives well lived – then why are all the prizes so different??? Why does the LGBT community get to run the race, color in the lines, cross all our t’s and dot all our i’s – and still stand alone at the back of the line just waiting for the exclusion, hatred, defamatory rhetoric and inequality to just go away.

Selective equality equals no equality at all my friends – and the moment that the curtains are lifted and the myths debunked, the lies untold and all of us are truly treated equally under the law will be the moment that bravery means more than simply saying the right thing.

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About K. Guzman

Kathy grew up all over the US - lots of east coast time. She is a surfer girl with an unabridged curiosity. A woman whose mid life awakening continues to bring her to the place she was meant to be. Her degree in Journalism/Creative Writing from the University of Central Florida is being yanked from the archives and put to good use. Her two kids are grown and rock stars in this wild world – her Harley is ready for some serious summer miles – and her heart remains open to life, women and the possibilities each day brings.


One Response to “Obama Bravery and Me”

  1. Kathy,

    I agree with you. When I voted for Obama, I was under the misconception that he was going to take a stand on this issue from the beginning. Then, he didn’t. Civil Unions state by state are not the same as a federally recognized marriage. Awesome, so I get “Civil Unioned” in Illinois, but maybe a handful of states will recognize that if we travel? A blog I read suggested that we carry a copy of the certificate when travelling to other states that allow Civil Unions, so if something happens, there is proof that we are legally tied to one another. Yeah, that’s practical. I understand laws don’t change over night and was not naive enough to think a magic wand would be waved over America and we would have immediate equal rights, but COME ON. This was long overdue from him.

    On the other hand, I do thank him for his words. Better late than never, I suppose. My partner and I will not live our lives any differently, whether the laws change or not. We are thankful to Illinois for the passing of Civil Unions and will be taking that step next month in front of our family and closest friends. We will conitune to meet people in our lives, being advocates for the cause as evident by our commitment to each other.

    There is one thing I just can’t wrap my brain around though. This seems to be more of a religious debate defining marriage as between a man and a woman under God. As a product of 12 years of a Catholic education, I was never taught to discriminate or hate others because they are different. I was taught to love them.

    Posted by Kris | May 15, 2012, 1:11 pm

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