Ask Alma
The premier question to start this column is one that I’ll ask as a means of introduction:
What qualifies me to answer deep heartfelt questions on love & relationships?
It’s been a passion of mine since childhood to listen & talk to people, try to see what makes an individual be who s/he is and most importantly understand the dynamics of love. The latter of course is nearly impossible to achieve but I’m intrigued and up for the challenge.
As for my personal experiences, I’m a veteran with plenty of battle scars to prove it. Yet, I believe in it with all my heart. I yearn for it with all my soul and I’m not embarrassed to admit it.
My parents met when they were 15. They’re now 76 and after 52 years of marriage they’re STILL madly in love and devoted to each other. THEY were my professors on love and relationships. I haven’t had their success. However, I’m grateful for every relationship I’ve experienced and can say that I’ve taken away invaluable lessons from each whether it’s been a romantic or platonic one. So do I have a a phD on love? Am I a Dr. of Love so to speak? No, I’m an undying fan that believes that with compassion, communication, patience, respect & ability to know when to walk away, we can all have rich, meaningful, fulfilling relationships with family, friends and lovers.
Ask Alma
- How do I come out to my traditional Latino Family?
Tweet TweetHow do I come out to my traditional Latino family? Alma’s Answer: WOW does THIS hit home! I’m not going to say that coming out to a traditional Latino family is any more difficult than coming out to other non-Latino families. However, [...] - Should I take back an ex after 6 years?
Tweet TweetIf, after 6 years, you still think of a key ex in your past, and the opportunity arises, should you take it? Alma’s Answer: Let me tell you a little story…a true story that immediately came to mind when I read this [...] - Why do women date women that know each other too well?
Tweet TweetWhy do women date women that know each other too well? Why do they not choose to date people who are not connected in the scene?!! Then after all of this you’re in a room full of ex girlfriends … Alma’s [...]
- How do I come out to my traditional Latino Family?
I’m 15 years old and have known I wasn’t straight (beyond just vague questioning) for 3 or so years. I know now that I am a lesbian and I don’t know how to tell my mother or especially my sister, I know they wouldn’t hate me for it but I know my mother wont take it seriously and just think I’m going through a phase (and I know myself, and that its not any sort of phase) but what really concerns me is how my older sister (19) is going to react… She’s accused me of being a lesbian from the time I was 8 or so up until I was in middle school and I fervently denied it because I knew how she felt about lesbians. She has plenty of gay (male) friends but I don’t really know about female. She thinks girl to girl contact is (in her words) absolutely repulsive and it breaks my heart to think that she wouldnt accept me. Should I tell my mother or wait until she believes it’s actually who I am? And should I tell my sister..
And how would I tell my sister or my mom this? (I also have a brother and a dad in my life but I am nearly certain my brother would accept me without issue and I’ve already chosen to not tell my dad just yet..)
Posted by Laura | May 25, 2011, 5:57 pmHow do you think lesbians see Transwomen who like other women ? I was talking to a transwoman , who identifies as a translesbian,she said feels like a “less than women” , a second class lesbian. I am sure this is not the case but I haven’t been able to actually reference any actual examples or maybe something of substance. Any thoughts ?
Posted by Snowlion | July 16, 2011, 9:35 amI have a question for Alma: How could someone say they love you and suppose to mean the world to them but, one moment you get very sick they think an hour and half, picking up the meds, and picking up from the hospital is enough?
Posted by Gr33n3y3z | August 25, 2011, 11:29 pmmore of a question: is it weird leaving a voice mail asking someone out on a date for coffee?
Posted by Deb | September 14, 2011, 2:33 pm