Holiday Gift Ideas for the Dykes in Your Life

Winter is on the wind and gift-giving season is drawing nigh! If you’re struggling to generate ideas for fabulous holiday treats for your favorite lesbians, I’m here to help. I’ve collected a bounty of items for ladies who love ladies, with an eye to products and companies that are woman-owned, local and/or environmentally friendly.

This list contains ideas for our beautifully diverse range of Sapphic sisters, including literary lezzies, dapper dykes and crafty queers, and includes items at a variety of price points. So peruse the list, make your purchases and thank me after she lavishes you with gratitude and holiday favors.

Sapphic Sampler
Give your beloved reader a thoughtful and well-curated Sapphic sampler of works.   Bind two or three selections with twine and add a ribbon or sprig of holly and she’ll be ready to fall into bed with her new reads. A few suggestions in fiction: Days of Awe by Achy Obejas; Babyji by Abha Dawesar; and Beyond the Pale by Elana Dykewomon. For lovers of non-fiction, check out: Windy City Queer: LGBTQ Dispatches From the Third Coast edited by Kathie Bergquist; and Against Equality: Prisons Will Not Protect You edited by Ryan Conrad.

Find new selections at Women & Children First, and for used books, visit Armadillo’s Pillow in Roger’s Park. You can also check out for dirt-cheap used books, and save even more when you order multiple selections from the same seller.

Beer or Wine-Making Kit
Surprise your do-it-yourself diva with a beer or wine-making kit from Brew & Grow. These kits will help any home-brewer create unique beer or wine of their very own (perhaps she’ll name it after you). You can buy online at, or at locations throughout the Chicagoland area.

RodeoH Harness Boxer
The RodeoH Harness Boxer is sexy and comfy. It’s non-adjustable, so plan to use a slim dildo (no larger than 1.75’’ in diameter). You can find these and other gifts for folks on your naughty list at Early to Bed, a queer-positive sex toy store in Chicago. Stop in for their expert advice or shop online at:

Artisanal Treats from City Olive
Delight your eager epicurean with artisanal treats from City Olive, like their tasty balsamic vinegar with dried figs called ‘the girl and the fig’, which makes an excellent dressing or marinade. City Olive (which is woman-owned) offers specialty olive oils, honeys and teas, and hosts classes and tasting events. Check them out at

Queer-Girl Calendar for 2013
Treat your tramp to year-round eye candy with a beautiful queer-girl calendar for 2013. Two great options come from right here in Chicago – Earth Pearl Collective’s assemblage of gorgeous nude portrayals of queer womyn of color and the  naughty new erotica calendar, Q-were. Buy one for a friend and one for yourself, or you’ll be terribly jealous.

Touch Screen Compatible Winter Gloves
Touch screen compatible winter gloves will come in handy when the tit-shriveling cold sets in. It’s unlikely that folks will stop using their devices, so buy your gadget-loving lezzie a cozy pair of these gloves to help her to simultaneously avoid frostbite and virtual disconnection. You can purchase a pair at or other retailers.

About Face Theatre Membership
Support queer youth by purchasing your lady-friend a membership to the About Face Theatre, which grants access to the season’s productions.  About Face Theatre is home to an amazing youth theatre program, and produces works by queer people that challenge audiences’ ideas about gender and sexuality. If membership is out of your price range, take your lady to their current show, ‘The Three Liza’s: A Holiday Bender’, playing through December 23rd.

Cuff Links
Beautiful cuff links to set off a French cuff are ever-so-chic and sexy. Check out for an extensive selection.

A New Experience
A new experience is often more memorable than any bauble or device. Give her a gift certificate for an Indian cooking class, a day at the rock-climbing wall, an intensive language workshop or other adventure. She’ll appreciate the challenge and if you’d like, it’s something you can enjoy together.

A bowtie is an affordable and on-trend way to brighten up a wardrobe. Check out  to find the right match for your dapper darling.

Curve Magazine Subscription
Support feminist media and keep your girl filled in on queer and feminist-centric news with a subscription to Curve Magazine. It’s a steal at $34.50 for the year.

A gift basket that any crafter would adore
You can include items such as colored washi tape, paper twine, card stock, storage boxes and a cordless glue gun . For the crocheter, grab Lion Brand’s BonBon collection of 8 mini-skeins of colored yarn, and for the jewelry-maker, pick up a tool or two from Precision Comfort Tools. Find items on

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Sweet Home Chicago Collection
Send a taste of Chicago to friends unfortunate enough to live elsewhere with the delicious Sweet Home Chicago Collection with goodies from a variety of specialty shops in the city. Purchase the collection at Pastoral locations or

Homemade Gifts
Don’t forget homemade gifts!  Gifts that you’ve made are incredibly touching. You could knit a scarf, paint a found object, dip your own candles, make a set of decorative bowls out of LPs or EPs, or decorate a re-usable tin and fill it with homemade treats. For ideas, visit

About the Guest Blogger
Cassandra is a radical social worker, grassroots activist, and performer. She works with LGBTQ and court-involved youth as a clinician and advocate, and is an Executive Board member for the Sex Worker’s Outreach Project. Her primary areas of professional interest are LGBTQ health, reproductive justice, anti-oppressive sexuality education, sex worker’s rights and youth development. Cassandra earned her Master of Social Work from Jane Addams College at UIC.  Cassandra has an affinity for adventuring, and has lived in five countries and been lost in many more. She hosts a queer feminist book club in her home, and is a member of a fabulous dyke choir (or quoir). She is interested in creating intergenerational queer spaces, and in facilitating  discussions that challenge popular discourse related to sexuality, gender, class and race.

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4 Responses to “Holiday Gift Ideas for the Dykes in Your Life”

  1. Ummm… I think the link for Curve magazine isn’t correct since it leads to a link for a Lebanese style/architecture mag… perhaps this is what you’re looking for?

    Posted by Laura | December 3, 2012, 9:13 am
  2. Thank you for noticing Laura, we fixed it!

    Posted by Vivian | December 4, 2012, 12:24 pm
  3. Also, the link for Early to Bed is The one listed above is for fancy sheets and stuff (also a good gift, I suppose…)

    Posted by Stacy | December 4, 2012, 12:54 pm
  4. Fixed Stacy, thank you. Any takers on link editors? 😉

    Posted by Vivian | December 4, 2012, 2:58 pm

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