On April 21st my best friend and partner, Andrea Moffat asked me to spend the rest of my life with her. Perhaps I was a little naive to still be surprised when I had proposed the weekend before, but my heart jumped when I saw Andrea on the big screen at the Windy City Roller Derby Game. I could not even tell you what she said, only seeing her smile through my glassy eyes. Surrounded by our friends and family, I can not imagine a more perfect moment of my life.
I suppose after this year I feel like Andrea and I have already proven our commitment to each other. After all marriage for me is about knowing who will be during those moments when the world is falling apart. It is working through all the conflict that is bound to occur when you have two people negotiating how to build a life together. It is listening, it is laughter, it is holding onto my hand in the hospital, and it is holding onto to each other through the tears.
It is a silly thing to think that anyone would object to people falling in love with each other. I am glad that people of all cultures are evolving to accept what love God grants us in our short lives. I am glad that our own President has thoughtfully explored what gay marriage is for this country. To love without hesitation or fear of persecution, that is our future as a Nation of people.
I had never pictured myself getting married or wanting to get married, until I met Andrea. She dares me to enjoy every moment of our life together and challenges me to carve out my own space in this world. It is a different feeling to be engaged and it is hard for me to articulate the difference, but it is very validating to share this amazing and improbable love with the rest of the world. Thank you for sharing this day with me and my family. I am truly blessed.
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Kimberly Rogers, LCSW. like many Queer Ohioans fled to Chicago when Issue #1 (most discriminating marriage ban in the US) passed by 75%. Now she works in the fight against HIV/AIDS as a psychotherapist and smarter-sex advocate. A Master’s graduate from the University of Chicago, Kim mixes her interests of gender, sexuality, queer politics, and mental health liberation into a her own Sex-Positive Psychotherapy Practice. She feels so fortunate to be working with such amazing and passionate people.