Old Lady Advice

As I struggle in an out of the fight to fix this body torn and changed by the surgery I had last year – I come to realizations about myself – my strengths and weaknesses and all that jazz. I have epiphanies and light streaming into the darker corners of my mind that force me to see- again and again – that every single trial and tribulation we go through channels us to the place we are truly meant to be. The road ain’t easy my friends – but the road must be traveled.

I wanted to say some things to the young women who are just starting their journey or are just figuring out which path they want to explore in this short race called life. I wanted to take a look over my shoulder and put some thoughts out there that I wish to God someone had mentioned to me just a couple of decades ago….it might have made some of the difficult times seem a lot less difficult….

Here we go…..

Take care of your bodies. Take care of your health. Take care of yourself. Stay active and make connections to the mind, body and spirit – not even kidding here. Remember what is feels like to run fast and strong and have no fear of falling – and keep on running. Roll around and get dirty – take out that shortstop when you slide into second and chase that foul ball until you smash into the fence – go all out – every single day. Stay balanced and active and keep your muscles young and supple. Reach for the sky and Namaste your ass into the very best physical specimen you can be. You were born to be the subjects of the great painters of our times and the models who turn lumps of clay into everlasting sculptures of perfection. You are young and powerful – work it girls – don’t find a reason not to put yourself in the front of the fitness line – take care of your body and it will take care of you.

Go to the damn doctor – get that physical – do your woman stuff and get in the stirrups once a year – such a jolly good time (shit) – just do it. Get your pap smear – examine those boobies and make sure your overall health is good. Eat the right foods more often than the wrong foods – party like a rock star but not like a rock star who never reaches 30. Get out and breathe that fresh air – have good conversations with strangers and open your mind to the possibilities that all our differences are amazing and necessary and worth fighting for. Be kind – just be kind. Karma is a beautiful thing – and through kindness and generosity of spirit – we find our heart beats more true and steady – and our health will benefit from an open and forgiving heart – trust me on this one.

Have integrity – with your word – with your hopes and dreams – with each action you put forth into this world. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Listen more than you speak and tell the truth in soft whispers when necessary and loud pounding screams when all is almost lost. Surround yourself with good people – keep your friends close and try to trust those friends as much as you possibly can. Be a good person – make eye contact with the person behind the register at the grocery store – hold the door for the old lady at Walgreens and pick up whatever that stranger just dropped because her hands were too full of too much. Take a moment to look outside of yourself and mesh into the sounds and lives and moments that make up your life. Be a part of something bigger than yourself. Just try.

Don’t worry about getting older. If you are blessed and lucky – it will happen. Don’t count the grey hair or the worry lines – time will change so many things – but it cannot take your youthful spirit – not without your permission. Live for today – live for the moment and don’t get stressed or excited about the trip until you step on that plane baby. Don’t be afraid to be who you are – authentically true – fuck what the people might say. Follow your heart from beginning to end and back again – it will never steer you wrong. Love the one you love – and accept the package they come in and take that crazy chance. Don’t ever settle for less than you deserve and don’t try to fool yourself into thinking that something so wrong could ever possibly be so right. Laugh loud and often and believe that the thing you dream is actually a possibility waiting to happen.

Simplify – remove the clutter in your life and your home and your mind. Accept the good with the bad – and make the bad good whenever you find a way. Go out and see the world – travel and see how the rest of the planet is doing. Taste a beer in Dublin and a pizza in Napoli – gaze at the stars from the North Woods and watch the sun rise in Montauk. And don’t forget to drink that amazing Pinot Noir as you watch that same sun set in Leucadia.

I know – what the hell – will my mind ever stop rambling?? Probably not – but I simply had to share. The bottom line to all of this is that life swings my friends – it just does. Slow down for a minute – live life well – take care of yourself from the inside out and make every single moment matter.

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About K. Guzman

Kathy grew up all over the US - lots of east coast time. She is a surfer girl with an unabridged curiosity. A woman whose mid life awakening continues to bring her to the place she was meant to be. Her degree in Journalism/Creative Writing from the University of Central Florida is being yanked from the archives and put to good use. Her two kids are grown and rock stars in this wild world – her Harley is ready for some serious summer miles – and her heart remains open to life, women and the possibilities each day brings.


10 Responses to “Old Lady Advice”

  1. Thanks wise lady

    Posted by Casey | February 15, 2012, 10:15 am
  2. Thanks for that….

    Posted by Dawn | February 15, 2012, 10:54 am
  3. Casey – you are welcome wise girl!!

    Posted by K Guzman | February 15, 2012, 10:56 am
  4. Dawn – welcome for that….

    Posted by K Guzman | February 15, 2012, 10:57 am
  5. From an even older lady: well said, Kathy. I think there’s one thing I would add here. Cherish the ones you love. If you’re on the outs with a loved one, work to patch it up and use love and patience to do so. And forgive those who step on you along the way because forgiveness is the only means by which you can move forward. And if you’re the one stepping on someone else, be gentle and apologize.

    Posted by Karen | February 15, 2012, 11:40 am
  6. thank you Karen

    Posted by K Guzman | February 15, 2012, 3:50 pm
  7. This is one article, I definitely encourage all young women to read. I would have loved to have someone years ago share their thoughts/life experiences that would have made a difference in those difficult times. My friend Kathy Guzman, who I think highly of, is inspirational and one amazing wise woman.
    Please read.

    Posted by Bruni Gonzalez | February 15, 2012, 7:09 pm
  8. Scooter – I appreciate your support.

    Posted by K Guzman | February 16, 2012, 8:46 am
  9. Kathy, you did it again! Every time I get a chance to read your writings I am in awe of such talent. You could not put this out there in better words. Thank you for being so inspiring, your words always move me! I hope to meet you one day and thank you in person, perhaps I can enlighten your perspective….even though we are getting older, we need not age!! 😉

    Posted by Jano | February 16, 2012, 2:05 pm
  10. Jano – so glad to know someone is moved by what I ramble on about – a little light on my perspective might be a good thing!! Thanks for the post!

    Posted by K Guzman | February 16, 2012, 2:18 pm

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