As we pass from December of one year to January of the next, I marvel at the apparent collective societal agreement to embrace phrases like do over, start again, clean slate. It’s as if, with the final stroke of midnight and the start of the first notes of Auld Lang Syne, the human species allows the release of all that existed before that moment in time and crosses it off its To Do list. We seem to effortlessly put that year away somehow and turn the page on the next, all in the time it takes to clink those proverbial New Year’s Eve glasses together.
But it’s never as easy as all that, is it… from somewhere in the back of our now clean plate mind lurks the inevitable need to make amends for that which was undone, unrealized, unfulfilled, un-something we can’t quite put our finger on. Unconsciously, we find our hands reaching out for that pristine piece of paper or the “reminders” app on that newly gifted technology tool. Whether coaxed forth out of the soul searching, night sky gazing of a philosopher, or spurred on by the head-splitting, gut-wrenching admonitions from last night’s binge…
The title is always the same…New Year’s Resolutions.
At this stage in my life, I like to think of them as goals, with doable steps to achieve the desired outcome! I have created many a “resolution” – those amorphous, bigger than life declarations that usually sound more like a vision, rather than a mission, statement. “I will…(eat healthier, lose weight, exercise more, be more organized…fill in the blank)…in 2012.” Declarations doomed to failure before the end of February (piece of advice – never buy a new gym membership until at least February. I know you will have missed the January “$0 membership fee if sign up by Jan. 31” deal, but you save yourself the rest of the year’s monthly fee because, by then, you have settled into winter hibernation and the fat, comfy, fleece pants don’t feel nearly as tight as the New Year’s Eve outfit you poured yourself into!! And you will be free of the guilt of another year’s membership you never used!)
Goals, and their corresponding steps and outcomes, mean I can cross things off that proverbial To Do list, that is my life, more often and feel like I am really achieving something. Metrics and measureable…the buzz words these days…that’s my goal. Be specific. Embrace the what, by how much, when and who the heck is keeping me honest!! Can’t be a secret…we are too easily fooled by our own rationalizations!!! Be bold, sisters!! Be brave!
I have set a larger goal for myself in 2012, which we will discuss in a future blog post, but for now – here are two of my suggested goals for 2012:
- Don’t forget to tip your hardworking wait staff, bartender, and hotel room staff! Even if the drinks are free at the event or fundraiser – especially then! And remember to look at the person’s name tag and then their eyes, and address them by name – they are people too and have probably been putting up with lots of other people’s junk already! And lots of thank yous.
- Keep your kindergarten 8-count box of crayons in mind if you ARE planning on eating healthier this year! The darker and brighter the purples, blues, reds, greens, oranges, and yellows the fruit or veggie is…the better. A little can go a long way with more of what you need packed into these vibrant colors. If it looks like a hue you are dying to color outside of the lines with, grab it!
May your days be filled with friends, good food, and laughter. ..Be well.