Mean what you say and say what you mean

I find as the time goes by I learn more and more about people and tendencies and intentions. There are folks walking around out there that wouldn’t know the truth from a lie if you spelled it out in front of them – and they are ok with the not knowing. They don’t even recognize their imbalance and inconsistencies – as if there is no world but their world. There are others who try so hard to be so perfect that they miss out on the nuances of learning by mistake, forgiveness and regret. They stay so safe inside their airtight world that they forget to really live. Then there are those who have figured it out and simply live to live, to show kindness to others as often as possible and to work on living an authentic life. Those that have taken the knocks and learned from them, released the negative, and turn out the better for it somehow.

I guess this all leads me to knowing some certainties – at least knowing certainties that matter to me. Knowing that the words we speak define who we are in this world. Every spoken word that comes into the space between us has meaning and intentions. Once those words are uttered from our lips they are not just words anymore – they are not just thoughts that were once in our heads – they are promises and hopes and when spoken become real. The things we say come alive – they are almost tangible and they bring consequences and reactions. The person on the other side believes in everything they hear from you and experiences with you – and it should matter to us that we do not mislead or disguise our hearts behind tainted words. Truth, all the way truth, seems to be a lost art in this time and place. I think we need to be cognizant of the things we say, the actions we take, the lives we touch. There should be no hidden agenda, no twists in the plot or surprise endings – when there is truth – hearts stay whole and life is so much kinder.

It is the same with relationships. When the moment is right and the forces take hold and those crazy, perfect lips of yours are finally on mine – they are not just kisses – they are secrets to another person’s heart and truth. And as the connection builds and bridges are crossed and our lives become more like one – there is more to think about – at least in the real world there is more to consider. It is not just laughter – it is shared happiness and memories made – it is a bonding of commonality and a connection found through experiences lived in the real world. It is not just touching and fucking – it is intimacy and every rule that should come along with that vulnerability. We should not be fooling each other – we should not be playing one another against each other – we should not be living a make believe all for me or nothing kind of existence. Do what you feel with true intentions and recognition of what that reality may do to someone and what it may bring tomorrow. Do not say what you think I want to hear – but rather share what is real in your heart – it is the only way we stand a chance of happily ever after in this lifetime. And God knows I want my happily ever after…..

I love a story as much as the next chick. But I am past the drama and the worry and the dysfunction. There are still some amazing women running around out there without a partner in crime – and I promise right here and now – one of them is going to be mine. And that my friends is the truth.

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About K. Guzman

Kathy grew up all over the US - lots of east coast time. She is a surfer girl with an unabridged curiosity. A woman whose mid life awakening continues to bring her to the place she was meant to be. Her degree in Journalism/Creative Writing from the University of Central Florida is being yanked from the archives and put to good use. Her two kids are grown and rock stars in this wild world – her Harley is ready for some serious summer miles – and her heart remains open to life, women and the possibilities each day brings.


One Response to “Mean what you say and say what you mean”

  1. That again, is well said. So true and so sad to say that those woman are hard to come by these days:( I hope you do find her one day cuz it’s truly awesome having that kind of relationship. Funny, it’s how they all should be:) good luck

    Posted by Jeanine | October 25, 2011, 12:25 pm

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